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Friends And Associates Are They Right For You.
From The Mind Of Mesel Pita
It is a statistically proven that we are products of our individual environment. Which is to say that the people,
places and things with which we are surrounded greatly influences what we feel and think and the way we believe.
And these things have led us into being what we are today. This is also to affirm that whatever degree of success
we have obtained up to this point, is well….determined by the thoughts that our environment has guided us to think.
Since what we are today is the result of the totality of all the sensations we have experienced {real or imaginary}.
It is of the utmost importance therefore, don't you agree, that we surround ourselves with an environment which
will result in not only the experience of sensations, which are not only the most enjoyable but are also the sensations
that we have chosen in advance, predetermine our experiences. Then we can also pre-decide, or predetermine sensations
that we will experience as well as how we will feel about these sensations. In other words, predetermine what we
will think. To control what we think and feel is the development of an attitude, which is in direct proportion
to the raw material used in its development. To briefly explore this, you are hungry in an area with which you
are not familiar. You travel along a street lined with restaurants until you find the restaurants which catches
you fancy. So, for whatever reason that something is, you pull into the parking lot. You have the concept of what
you want the restaurant to look like inside, the kind of food it serves and how the food is prepared, how the food
will look and taste. So you think to yourself, if it looks and tastes the way I imagine it will, I think I will
have __________ to drink. And then after I have finished the meal I think I will have ___________ afterward, as
a dessert. With my stomach full of that good food I will then have_________. …. So on and so on. So you write the
scenario even before you walk through the door of the restaurant. You experience the full stomach and exuberant
attitude, being totally aware of what must take place before hand to obtain the desired results of a deliciously
satisfied hunger. Now these kind of cognitive processes we go through every day. Planning your environment requires
that same kind of processes, and since we do this type of analysis and planning all during our wakening hours ,
we know that the actual process is no big deal. But yet we spend more time planning our shopping list or our vacation
than planning for a successful rewarding life. Why? There are a multitude of reasons, some of which are.
1.) It takes constructed, organized thinking towards a specific and.
2.) It takes an honest evaluation of one's self and one's environment and its components,
people places and things and what affect these components have on ones thinking and feeling.
3.) It takes controlled concentration.
4.) It takes futuristic visualization. The ability to visualized his or her future,
as he or she wants it. This is a very important task. One must know where one is going, or where one wants to go
before one can even begin to devise a plan on how to get there.
5.) It takes intestinal fortitude to resolve to remove from your environment that
which have a negative impact on your life, and replace them with that which aids you in reaching you goal. Of all
these most difficult one is the last, because one of the elements in our environment is people, our loved ones,
our friends, our relatives, and our associates. And, how do we deal with this? Lets try to deal with these in order.
A.) Organized thinking toward a specific end. We spend most of our waking hours thinking. Of as I read somewhere,
we sit on the shores of our minds watching the stream of memories for our past and the fears of our future go flowing
past. But is this really thinking? We all know, don't we, that the past is gone forever and cannot be re-lived
however hard we try. And is it not so that about ninety percent ( 90%) of the things we worry about never come
to past? So if this comprises the preponderance of our mental exercises then is it not also true that we spend
most of our lives engaged in futile mental exercise which produces little to nothing. AT the same time we are letting
years, which could be used building success, just waste away? Do you know that most of us do not know that he himself
is responsible for his own failure or success? So, much mental energy is wasted on frivolous things that he never
realizes that "Hey I can make it happen". Concentrate your mental energy on thinking of what you want
and the way you want things to be. This might be the first time you will begin to question the effect your present
environment, especially the people and things in it, have on you thinking and therefore your life. Now that you
have changed the innermost environment first, your own mind, develop a more positive attitude. Everyday read motivational
and self-help literature so hat you intensity and maintain that positive attitude every single day. Concentrate
you mental energy on what you want to be, actually see yourself as you want to be. Think the thoughts and do the
things that such a person would actually do. Be that person in your own mind, do this everyday all day and watch
the success come.
B.) It takes an honest evaluation of one's self and one's situation. If you have followed step one you may now
know how you want yourself and your environment to be. Does your present environment meet these criteria? Take
a good hard look, you must know if you ever hope to change it. Consider yourself as you would like to be. Can your
current environment contribute to your desired success, especially the people? Have they been a positive force
before, are they a positive force now? Can you share your aspirations with them and receive their support and help?
Is your personal environment a source of constant aspiration and support?
C.) It takes controlled concentration: Answering some of these questions now maybe somewhat difficult, because
you have not yet had a chance to develop controlled concentration. The ability which allows you to maintain a vision
long enough for your mind to process it.
D.) Futuristic visualization: You will not be able to understand the importance of the effect your environment
has on your success until you can actually see yourself being a success. And actually see what kind of people will
be in you life then. The Ideal environment then is the environment, especially the people in it, who should be
the same as the environment in your vision of your future. They should be supportive, inspiring and understanding.
They should also be successful in their pursuit of their own achievement, or at least aspiring to be successful.
They should be positive thinking. The best kind of people to surround yourself with is someone who is already what
you aspire to be. Someone you can learn from. It's easier to maintain you vision if you live in it. Because all
of the ingredients of you vision is already there. The only thing missing is your attainment of some of the success
you surround yourself with. So if your current circle of friends and associates do not have any of these attributes
of the people in your vision, If your current circle fosters negatives thinking and failure, maybe its time to
change the components of your environment.
E.) It takes intestinal fortitude: to remove from your environment that which has a negative impact on your life
and replace it (or them) with things which aids us in reaching our goals. Especially so because this includes our
loved ones, the friends and associates who have become a part of us, it seems. And the pain of just thinking about
this usually is enough to abort this kind of thinking. But we are, nevertheless, faced with a decision. Do I really
want to be successful? That is, do I want to pay the price? We know there is really is no free lunch, so to speak.
It's sometimes a very painful step. But if you want something bad enough then you will inevitably pay the price
for it. How can we expect success to be any different?
Thoughts from "The mind of Mesel"